Welcome to my Blog site discussing and sharing wide range of subjects from Personal to Corporate and entrepreneurship.
Thursday, September 14, 2006
What is love?
What is love? is it between a person and another? Can we love some and hate others? Or is it a state of being? Where do relations such as marriage fall then?
can't answer this one!! Its the one thing that I can probably write 100 pages about...but never know what it is exactly? & what causes it? & why we feel it? & how we fall into it? & where we find it? & who made it? & when it can happen? & when it is right? & when it is not? & whom is worth it or not? & why it exists?
Yes..yes..I can hear you...all I know is when I have this feeling poems flow like rivers and that it is one of the most beautiful feelings ever..but what really it is and why..is a mystery :)
eh...but that is how we become stronger. Bes the negative part to that is, when someone hurts us, the result is, our heart yi2sa, yi2sa 3ala the next person who comes along :S they have to work much harder to win our heart over, and I find we are tougher emotionally. Maybe not as emotionally vulnerable as before. unfortunately!! Not sure if that makes sense the way I said it :)
you know what s funny.. is when we are without love we feel empty, when we are in love it finishes too fast even if the relation still there, and we are out of love we feel very hurt...
what is the point of finding love if its gonna be gone after a short period of time...I'd rather not go through emotional volatility. A year, 2, 10, u r happy and in love...then u r depressed cuz its gone...shu hel 3eeshi hay?
I actually do not understand how people fall out of love to tell u the truth. I think this is my problem.
I believe that true love will never die no matter what happens. Even if two people go through problems, fights, have different views, change, go from loving to hating eachother. That is the whole point of love. Why would you be upset at someone if you did not care about them. Why would someone affect you if you did not love them. ya3ni to me, if someone does not mean anything to me, I will never be affected by what they say....but if the person i truly care about says something or disappoints me, ofcourse ra7 3atbu and be hurt.
So, for someone to tell me they fell out of love, all it means to me is, they were never really in love...they were infatuated or whatever with that individual...love means, u'll be there for ever...through good and bad times...
To love someone, u gotta see them as family. Family will always be part of you no matter how many fights, hate sessions, arguments, ups and downs, u go through. Otherwise, that relationship wont work.
ok, enough jarayid. your post is turning into a therapy session :D hahahah...
you made very good points here Dareen, IE: why people don't love each other after few years of being together... and you maybe right as of they weren't even in love in the first place, so what were they in?? It had to be an intimate or (sexual) kind of love and since it is all about excitement, after few years of doing the same thing, this excitement actually dies down and now both folks are falling "out" of love and perhaps want new excitement... But then how can two people be together if there were not this type of love but more of "pure" love.. Ahhhh it s getting complicated... I think also that the idea of harmony and peace must be existent in general so people are patient with each other, but also the romantic or physical attraction must be there so they don't end up like brothers and sisters :) I guess one reason of so many failed marriages is that the lack of education in this regard, one guy sees a nice girl in college, she s got nice hair and cool hips, he s got the right hair cut and charm ... and they get married.. you know what I mean??
I think people don't have the same devotion they did when it comes to marriage as our parents did. Divorces are so easy now, couples don't try hard enough to make things work. They give up so easily. Most people base a marriage on a physical exciting attraction. They forget the most important factor, which is friendship. They take that out of the equation. You gotta marry your best friend. This is how I see it. Plus obviously, there has to be attraction. The other thing too is, whatever happens between a man and woman should be limited to once a week. Maybe that will prolong the relationship to lifetime in this day and age. Therefore, people better hope there are other things they can do with their partner, like talk, do activities, do things friends do. I bet if I asked most married couples, or couples who are dating if intimacy was taken out, what would there be left for the couple to do, allot would have nothing to say. OR, say that they would go see their other friends to hang out, or spend time with kids. BUT NOT EACH OTHER!! :S i'm being shway extreme I think :S
There are way too many options for people now adays. People are too weak & feel no need to be attached 100% to anyone or anything. All because of options. People get suckered into exciting options, when at the end of the day, what you have at home, is same if not better than what is out there. But, the mentality of GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE is carved in tooooo deep :)
I agree, but about this once a week, I don't..because if the two truly are friends and love romantically each other, it won't matter really how many times they do it a week, they will never be bored from each other :) And you hit the note on "Grass is greener on the other side" just a very common illusion :)
What is love? is it between a person and another? Can we love some and hate others? Or is it a state of being? Where do relations such as marriage fall then?
17 comments:
I beleive there's only proofs of love ("des preuves d'amour") but love...not sure!
can't answer this one!! Its the one thing that I can probably write 100 pages about...but never know what it is exactly? & what causes it? & why we feel it? & how we fall into it? & where we find it? & who made it? & when it can happen? & when it is right? & when it is not? & whom is worth it or not? & why it exists?
Should I go on? More questions :S
Yes..yes..I can hear you...all I know is when I have this feeling poems flow like rivers and that it is one of the most beautiful feelings ever..but what really it is and why..is a mystery :)
eh, bes if love hurts you, or the person you love I should say, then u'll still be writing poems but with negative energy :S
I know exactly what you mean...it would terrible terrible feeling when the other person hurts you...
eh...but that is how we become stronger. Bes the negative part to that is, when someone hurts us, the result is, our heart yi2sa, yi2sa 3ala the next person who comes along :S they have to work much harder to win our heart over, and I find we are tougher emotionally. Maybe not as emotionally vulnerable as before. unfortunately!!
Not sure if that makes sense the way I said it :)
you know what s funny.. is when we are without love we feel empty, when we are in love it finishes too fast even if the relation still there, and we are out of love we feel very hurt...
tayyib shu il7al? mafi ever lasting "in love" ya3ni?? Ana baddi haik? wain bla2i?? bishtiri shi dozen!! :D
shaklou mafi 7al :|
how depressing :( I guess iza haik, people should stay single :S
actually I think u hit a sensitive spot right there...I believe depression exist because of lack of love...
what is the point of finding love if its gonna be gone after a short period of time...I'd rather not go through emotional volatility. A year, 2, 10, u r happy and in love...then u r depressed cuz its gone...shu hel 3eeshi hay?
I actually do not understand how people fall out of love to tell u the truth. I think this is my problem.
I believe that true love will never die no matter what happens. Even if two people go through problems, fights, have different views, change, go from loving to hating eachother. That is the whole point of love. Why would you be upset at someone if you did not care about them. Why would someone affect you if you did not love them. ya3ni to me, if someone does not mean anything to me, I will never be affected by what they say....but if the person i truly care about says something or disappoints me, ofcourse ra7 3atbu and be hurt.
So, for someone to tell me they fell out of love, all it means to me is, they were never really in love...they were infatuated or whatever with that individual...love means, u'll be there for ever...through good and bad times...
To love someone, u gotta see them as family. Family will always be part of you no matter how many fights, hate sessions, arguments, ups and downs, u go through. Otherwise, that relationship wont work.
ok, enough jarayid. your post is turning into a therapy session :D hahahah...
you made very good points here Dareen, IE: why people don't love each other after few years of being together... and you maybe right as of they weren't even in love in the first place, so what were they in?? It had to be an intimate or (sexual) kind of love and since it is all about excitement, after few years of doing the same thing, this excitement actually dies down and now both folks are falling "out" of love and perhaps want new excitement... But then how can two people be together if there were not this type of love but more of "pure" love.. Ahhhh it s getting complicated...
I think also that the idea of harmony and peace must be existent in general so people are patient with each other, but also the romantic or physical attraction must be there so they don't end up like brothers and sisters :)
I guess one reason of so many failed marriages is that the lack of education in this regard, one guy sees a nice girl in college, she s got nice hair and cool hips, he s got the right hair cut and charm ... and they get married.. you know what I mean??
I think people don't have the same devotion they did when it comes to marriage as our parents did. Divorces are so easy now, couples don't try hard enough to make things work. They give up so easily.
Most people base a marriage on a physical exciting attraction. They forget the most important factor, which is friendship. They take that out of the equation. You gotta marry your best friend. This is how I see it. Plus obviously, there has to be attraction. The other thing too is, whatever happens between a man and woman should be limited to once a week. Maybe that will prolong the relationship to lifetime in this day and age. Therefore, people better hope there are other things they can do with their partner, like talk, do activities, do things friends do. I bet if I asked most married couples, or couples who are dating if intimacy was taken out, what would there be left for the couple to do, allot would have nothing to say. OR, say that they would go see their other friends to hang out, or spend time with kids. BUT NOT EACH OTHER!! :S i'm being shway extreme I think :S
There are way too many options for people now adays. People are too weak & feel no need to be attached 100% to anyone or anything. All because of options. People get suckered into exciting options, when at the end of the day, what you have at home, is same if not better than what is out there. But, the mentality of GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE is carved in tooooo deep :)
I agree, but about this once a week, I don't..because if the two truly are friends and love romantically each other, it won't matter really how many times they do it a week, they will never be bored from each other :)
And you hit the note on "Grass is greener on the other side" just a very common illusion :)
Haha...
I was being an extremist!! :P
;)
Post a Comment